I am so tired of having people judge me just because of my jean size. So what, I am a young lady who enjoys her meals and has less time to go to the gym and exercise. I find it so hard to understand why people judge each other by their outward appearance. Why do we have to live up to the standards which are set by fashion magazines such as Vogue, FHM and Glamour? Do those magazines define who we are and what type of girl or ladies are seen as being more attractive?
Young girls have always had issue with the way they look, especially when it comes to their weight. I would know, I was once that girl and yes I might have grown but I am still that weight conscious girl. Especially now that I am in tertiary and I have people back at home looking at me with a different eye just because I have put on a couple of pounds. Why do they not see the same old girl who once wore that perfect jean size which they found as attractive and out going? Besides the jean size, I am still that out going young girl deep down.
Being a first year in a different environment, far away from your parents is hard enough on its own. We are also pressured with academic work, do you think we have the time to worry about how much we weigh? Well some girls do, and most of them do not realise it but the more they worry about gaining weight the more pounds they seem to pick up. Some girls are lucky, when they stress they eat less but other unfortunate ladies like myself, when we stress we find comfort in food. Do you blame us? This is the only thing that will never let us down emotionally, and at that moment it fills a certain gap which no one else seems to be able to fill. Plus one puts no effort in having a bite of their favourite munch.
Come ladies eat up; just do not forget to exercise. This will not kill you, not only will it keep you healthy but it will also relieve your stress levels, leaving you feeling happy and lively. This way you will not have the erg to snack when it is not necessary. You are not doing this for anyone but yourself and as Ninon de Lenclos once quoted; “Every action we take, everything we do, is either a victory or defeat in the struggle to become what we want to be.” This is a decision which needs to be taken by you, because you determine your own feature and no one else. We as ladies need to stop letting other peoples judgements determine who we are or how we should look. The ball is in our court and do not forget to; “Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher,” Oprah Winfrey. “We can't become what we need to be by remaining what we are,” beautifully said by the lady who has given me so much hope in my life, Opera Winfrey.
3 comments:
firstly I don’t see how you substantiate your claim that you are being judged just because of your jean size, you have provided no prove that someone has actually come up to you and said “hey you’re fat and your ass is sticking out of your jeans”. You say that you are being looked down at because that’s how you feel. Do not make your insecurities our problem. The standards set by Vogue and FHM are what they believe is beautiful and attractive, if you feel that those standards are wrong then why don’t you read Move or Drum magazine, these are magazines that embrace women of all colours and sizes.
You have based your opinion piece on your personal feelings and have generalised that to everyone, of which is very unfair to say the least. Not every young girl has had issues with the way they look and it’s unfair to assume that just because you have, everyone else also has had such experiences.
Gurrrrl.... I don't think you need to substantiate anything. We ARE judged by our jean size, and all the stats in every medical and psychological journal show that not only young girls but older women and younger children too are all becoming progressively MORE dissatisfied with their bodies. In this ridiculously thin-obesssed culture we live in, to be 'happy' with your less than (as judged by our culture) perfect body is almost a crime.
I've had anorexia, exercise bulimia and skirted around a few other eating disorders all to discover that it's no so much about size acceptance as it is about self-acceptance. I wrote about that at: http://www.ditch-diets-live-light.com/size-acceptance.html.
In my view, it's less about the size of our hips and thighs and much more about the size of our hearts and spirits.
I dont understand how your jean size can really depict how beautiful you are, I think that self-esteem is one of the aspects that can make one feel intimidated and threatened by the beuatiful and sexy Beyonces and the Noami Campbells but yet again one must remember that your jean size is part of YOURSELF and it is normal to be cautious of what you eat as a girl but that does not depict how beautiful or women enough. Although many girls may have suffered eating disorders, they should just accept their bodies and everyones will eventually accept them as they are. Ladies let stop with the "PHD" Pull Her Down Syndrome just because your lady friend is bigger than you in size she cant be a cheerleader or flash her flat stomach like the models in Vogue or FHM.
Be women enough to accept yourself and be confident.
xoxo
Molly
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